For most, the holidays are the best time of the year, but for many who have suffered the loss of a loved one, a holiday gathering can be very painful. It can be just as difficult for others in the room, who don't know what to say.
Charles Lindsey, who leads the bereavement program at Hospice of Lubbock, shares this advice on whether to mention, or avoid discussing the one who is missing.
"People hesitate to talk about a loved one's death because they want to protect, often they want to protect others, and sometimes we want to protect ourselves, but almost always so much better to air on the side of normalizing talking about what we feel, the emptiness we feel, and certainly talking about the person that we lost and normalizing, keeping them very much a part of our on-going life, and letting them live by keeping them alive by mentioning their name, so yes, talk about them."
Charles says although we expect the fist Christmas to be the hardest, that doesn't mean that the next Christmas will be any easier. Everybody handles grief differently.
And if you think you or someone you know would benefit from grief counseling. Hospice of Lubbock has several bereavement programs, also for children. Just call 795-2751 for more information on that.
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